BY IRENE LYON
I was just listening to the CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation for those non-canucks… ), and heard an RCMP officer saying that it’s not “natural” for a human being to kill.
This is so, so, NOT accurate.
Let me explain.
1) If a mother was to witness her child being harmed and/or killed (and let’s face it, this DOES happen), her instinct would be to harm and even yes “kill” the attacker. Typically though, she’d shutdown and go into shock – the opposite of the fight response – but that instinct to do harm is still sitting in her.
2) Same goes for a victim of rape/sexual assault.
3) Same goes for the emotionally abused person.
Having worked with many people who have survived #2 and #3, I can tell ya that the human instinct to kill is real and IS natural.
Our brain wants to protect us and our kin.
Does it mean we should kill? NO. Not necessarily.
But that instinct and desire IS there, and it doesn’t just magically go away on its own.
In my opinion, we must accept and acknowledge this.
You see, when a person has survival energies still stuck and living inside of them…
(which over time can result in PTSD and other body troubles from severe to subtle – depression, anxiety, fear, pain, trouble moving forward in life, addictions, always feeling paralyzed and STUCK etc.)
… allowing them, and giving them permission (the person), to IMAGINE, fantasize and most importantly SENSE what it would be like to attack, harm and even yes … kill the person who harmed them can be incredibly healing. It can, and often does, restore wholeness back to the person.
==== PLEASE NOTE: This is imagination and the feeling of doing it, not actually doing it! =====
Yes, the secret is out. I help my clients annihilate stuff/people/societies that have harmed them in the past so their body is no longer a prisoner of energies never released..
When survival energy gets freed up in the nervous system the potential of them actually harming someone else, and often THEMSELVES, in the future, IS lessened.
You’ve probably heard about war veterans coming back from combat and then having episodes wherein they accidentally attack their spouses in their sleep.
Or they wake up and have “unexplainable” attacks of rage and anger to those they love the most…(sadly, all too often this ends in suicide).
Well you see, that is the killing/anger/rage (energy) coming out after-the-fact because it couldn’t get out during the time of combat, typically, because they were being attacked and were helpless, or they witnessed their buddies being killed and they couldn’t do anything about it.
The same goes for those of us who are constantly in self-hatred and self-sabotaging patterns.
Think about this for a second — >>
If you were harmed in the past (emotionally, physically, sexually) and you couldn’t fight back or flee, that anger can, and often does, turn inwards because you couldn’t release it to those harming you. So you harm yourself. (This is especially true in the family system, typically when the parents have harmed a child. Words that ridicule and put down a child can be the most toxic and can create this vicious cycle.)
This rage/anger/killing, whatever you want to call it….
It is IN us.
It is OK that this is IN us.
But we need to learn how to move it OUT!
Everybody needs to learn how to move this energy out in a way that isn’t solely cathartic; isn’t going to drive somebody into a dissociated state; and isn’t just compassion, calm, and forgiving energy.
We need to bring WHOLENESS back to the entire human and animal within by respecting and honouring ALL bodily experiences. Survival instincts and all.
P.S. Bless the *RCMP officer’s heart who had to say this to make good face on the public radio.
(I get it, I really do…)
—-*Royal Canadian Mounted Police.
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