What if I told you that resistance was a good sign?

A sign that your life energy was starting to burst through?

(And, if you could just learn the skill set to work with it – all would be ok – would you keep reading?)

You see: that block (that resistance) is often touching into a deeper hurt. A threatening time from the past. A trauma. Either “seemingly” benign, or earth shatteringly horrific. A time when your desire to move forward, to be rambunctious, full of energy, flirtatious .. to be ALL of “YOU,” was squashed dead.

Typically, and sadly, this hurt happens very young. And all too often the perpetrator is a parental figure, a teacher, a sibling, or bully. Then, the second line of attack to our life force energy comes more as a cultural collective. It is less obvious, insidious and toxic: societal norms, ideology, rules.

But when you feel those pangs of pressure on your insides and the resistance to stop, to hide, to give up, to not go – GO!

Go with all your heart, guts and brains.

This is healing.

It’s healing, or more accurately, the chance to heal from those early wounds, that put you into resistance mode in the first place. All those times when you couldn’t push back. When you couldn’t say no. Or kick back. Fight or leave (flee).

But, because the body has to do “something” to preserve its safety, it froze up. It shut down.

And these tightly grooved, neurochemical, and physiological responses to those early wounds had to occur back then for that preservation instinct to kick in. But they don’t have to anymore.

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Understand that the resistance that might be felt right now could very well be an undercurrent of energy (a strong current perhaps) that needs to come forth.

Just imagine how much energy might be under there!

When I ask people to investigate their resistance – to really lean into it, a whole lot of juicy stuff shows up:

1 – Their push back reveals a feeling that’s living inside of them that has been unexpressed and suppressed.

2 – There might be a specific sensation attached to it: a tightness, an uneasiness, a pang deep in the stomach that is holding on so tight, and trying not to feel the imagined pain of failing.

3 – Potent emotional qualities such as disgust towards oneself may come through, with one of the worst qualities inflicted on our psyches and bodies showing up in full force: self-hatred.

4 – And, all too often there is a deep element of anger and frustration: a sense of wanting to stomp, hit and kick all the crap that has been stored up inside that is showing up as…

Yes, you guessed it: Resistance.

That’s all it is. It’s good life energy. The unexpressed emotion, the unfelt sensation and all the primal energies have a lot of punch to them, and when you keep that punch inside, it feels like a massive dam that is waiting to burst open.

Yet, it kind of scares us, because it’s been hidden and stored away, asleep.

And it gets woken up when we are challenged.

And thank god it gets stimulated.

Use it to your advantage.



PS. We’re in that time of year where people decide to make resolutions for the new year.

As I’ve witnessed during my twenty years in the business of healing and helping human beings, most of our resolutions will fail to take flight. Sorry to be a downer, but if we got ‘em the first time, we wouldn’t need to keep renewing our vows every calendar year. Instead, I might suggest you take this idea of resistance as being a force of good energy seriously. Use it to your advantage and tap into that suppressed life force energy.

After all “the resistance” in Stars Wars was for the good right? Because it helped to battle and conquer the Dark Side! 🙂

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Let’s stop the insanity of goals not met and improvement left behind. You in?