When we learn the right stuff (for us) we begin to heal. And to keep healing we must keep learning, tweaking and repeating.
It never ends. As it should not.
One of the primary pieces of wisdom that I feel I have solidified over the past ten years of my work is that healing comes, not from being healed – it comes from learning how to heal yourself.
Sure, you might have a mentor or helper, a guide, a coach, a therapist, a bodyworker, a shaman, an acupuncturist, a therapist, a friend, and even, an abuser . . . (yes, even those who have harmed us can teach us, not that we should seek out such relationships or even necessarily stay in them, but we can absolutely learn and heal from the lessons of those experiences!). All these people can give us what is needed to spark that perfect combination of insight and fuel so that we push ahead to our next level of evolution.
Without stimulus and contact with our environment (via these people in our lives and the world that influences and impacts us) our lives quickly lose meaning and we can get lost in nothingness.
For example, a baby will die if they are not held and interacted with. We, as humans, need social engagement that is nurturing and good to grow, learn and thrive.
And more importantly, without learning how we relate to it (the stimuli and environment) with curiosity and an open mind and a way of healthy action . . . opposed to reaction . . . we aren’t human – we are merely prettied up reptiles – reacting and living out of reflex, fear and survival.
What makes this even more tricky is that most people don’t even know they are doing this.
They aren’t aware that they are living in their primitive reptilian brains.
Their past traumatic imprints are elegantly intertwined in their behavioural patterns and physiological reactions so much so that these management strategies to survive are wired in such a way that their survival and their (apparent) success come to depend on them. Functioning at this level, while doable in the short-term, comes with long-term consequences.
In the work I’ve done with thousands of people over the years, there seems to be a tipping point wherein these ways of protection comes back to harm us (mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, relationally etc.). How that happens is dependent how we’ve been nurtured and our genetics, as well as the true nature of our authentic being – our soul. We are all genetically predisposed to certain aspects of health and vigor and illness and disease. Some of us are naturally strong and robust like a vikings whereas others are lithe like a swan or nimble like a chipmunk. Likewise, some of us are more prone to mental illness, whereas our best friend might be more prone to autoimmune disease and another friend to cancer or heart disease.
When our true soul nature isn’t being nurtured and we are pumping out what we “think” the world wants from us we put ourselves on a slippery slope and if we aren’t aware to these realities of the human condition, we can fall prey to the “bad” side of our genetics, so to speak.
How we find our learning (healing) journey, is unique to each person.
It comes down to how we interpret what we are given. And then, how we create and activate the necessary paths and pieces so we can capitalize for the sake of OUR own good.
I mean, how many people have said that getting their cancer, their illness, their accident, etc., . . . was the best thing that could’ve happen to them (in retrospect, of course and granted they survive/thrive).
I remember one of my teachers, Kathy Kain, telling us a story about a client of hers who was a high level athlete and endured a horrific trauma and was left paralyzed. Function and independence as they knew it was gone. A different level of acceptance had to come online for them to keep living without bitterness and a vendetta to the world that has stripped away their life. And yet, with learning (with Kathy and I’m sure other helpers, doctors etc.) this person came to acceptance and learned to be independent again and said that one of the truest gifts of the accident was that it showed them who their real friends were.
So, back to learning.
These people who have recovered and healed via their own acumen do so via engagement with self and the higher brain, and by learning much more about how they are reacting to their environment.
They want to know. They crave to know. They live to know.
I have observed, time and time again, when people get the real solid truth about their body, their mind, their nervous system, their traumatic imprints, and all the ins and outs and in-betweens, there is an awakening.
What wakes up are the pieces of the higher brain (that neocortex that is unique to humans).
Due to the fact that we as humans are the smartest – from an intellectual standpoint of course – living creature on planet earth, means that we must have THE truth from a biological level so that we can make sense of our own physiology.