Every now and then, I share something on my social media channels that’s a bit controversial.

I always share these things with the intention to educate and inform, from a trauma and nervous system POV, on a topic that I believe is important, not to be provocative just for the sake of it. 

I also try to offer as much context and clarity as possible in the limited space of a post caption.

But invariably, some people get offended, upset… even downright pissed. 

Today’s vlog (originally recorded as a livestream) addresses some of the hot topics, questions, concerns, and critiques re: a controversial video clip that I shared on daycare and attachment.

Here are some highlights (see the time stamped Video Chapters for more):

  • A re-share of the original video clip that sparked all the controversy
  • How wild animals raise young and why we should follow their example
  • My own personal experience of family-based child care in the Philippines
  • A true (and tragic) story that illustrates why secure attachment is essential
  • Why even doing all the ‘right things’ is not enough if caregivers are not regulated
  • The importance of attunement, consistency, and doing our own healing work as adults

I’ve said it before and I’ll keep on saying it until more humans really GET this at a cellular level:

Helping the kids starts with healing the adults. 

So, whether you’re a parent, grandparent, auntie, uncle, childminder, teacher, or caregiver, I really DO hope that you take the time to check it out!

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References & resources mentioned in this video: 

The Story of Ryan (why secure attachment is essential)

Special SBSM Alumni Parenting Panel with Irene & Seth Lyon (be sure to watch Michelle’s story which starts at 55.15)

Jean Liedloff’s book, ‘The Continuum Concept’ (this 1-hour video on it is stellar) 

My article on ‘tummy time’  

Bruce Perry’s book, ‘Born for Love – Why Empathy Is Essential and Endangered’ 

➤ While I didn’t mention this, this vlog, ‘Lessons from a mama monkey’, goes with what I’m talking about re: mammals (you’ll get a look at my parents in this one!) 

My playlist on all things children, parenting, and raising healthy humans