Are you that person who has tried dozens of therapies and treatments?
Can you relate to trying a gazillion different cleanses and elimination diets (plus every kind of mind-body technique under the sun)? Do you still find yourself struggling with tricky to treat symptoms and you wonder if you’ll ever be well enough to just let go and live?
If this is you, I’m so sorry you’re still living with so much pain and I want to apologize for all the years that my colleagues and I weren’t trauma-informed. Not to mention, all of the years we didn’t understand nervous system health and the importance of sequencing our healing methods so they stick.
I want to offer up some broad strokes around topics that don’t always get connected when it comes to helping people heal and recover from chronic illnesses that never seem to go away no matter how much a person tries.
In this article you’ll learn:
Why even the small stuff that we might not think is traumatic is in fact trauma.
How insidious, toxic stress sets up our biology for failure (unless we do something about it).
That time does not heal these wounds and why quick fixes will always fail.
The importance of sequencing neuroplastic healing and why you’ll never get better if you don’t understand what this means.
If you are unwell, or if you help people who are, I cannot stress enough how important this message is. Let’s ignite a new health revolution.
The world is aching for it, literally – are you?
First, I must begin with an analogy to remind us that what we once didn’t know is now common knowledge and is saving lives.
Imagine you go to a doctor and you’re pretty certain you have some kind of bacterial pneumonia.
It’s really bad and needs to be treated. All of the antibacterial herbs in the world won’t cut it (you know because you’ve been trying!) At this point, even as a non-medically trained person, you have a hunch that you need antibiotics.
But, the doctor never confirms the pneumonia with a test. Nothing. Meaning, they don’t know the root cause of the signs and symptoms. You’ve got a fever, pain, sweats, chills, a horrific cough and shortness of breath. They send you home with some aspirin because you’ve got a headache and fever. But, that’s it. No antibiotics. Nothing.
The headache lessens for a day, but the fever and pain continue. It becomes harder to breath. Things get worse. Much worse.
You might question this doctor’s expertise because it would seem like this is straightforward medical knowledge: high fever, pain, sweating, chill, trouble breathing – all signs of what might be bacterial pneumonia and the body trying to fight it.
We now know that these signs and symptoms, can be, indicative of an infection. There are tests to confirm the diagnosis, standard protocols for treatment and no one should ever die because of an infection – at least not now, right?
But, back in the day, before the invention of antibiotics, people would die.
Some even died when there was a cure; either because they didn’t know it existed, or because the supply wasn’t there, or because the doctor simply treated the symptoms and didn’t look further into the root cause.
Enter our current epidemic
A massive percentage of our population is struggling with a different kind of infection.
What I’m talking about is early adversity, childhood trauma and its strong connection with chronic illnesses of the physical and mental variety. And while I understand this isn’t the most glamorous of things to think about, we’ve neglected this conversation for too long. Now it’s time, I believe, to wake up to this reality that’s all around us and do something about it.
For example, here’s a partial list of disease that researchers at the Center for Disease Control suspect to be affected by the barrage of fear and threat dosed out to young children and infants via abuse, early trauma and adversity*:
Type 2 diabetes
Irritable bowel syndrome
Anxiety and depression
Chronic fatigue syndrome
Chronic pain syndrome
Addiction to drugs, alcohol and nicotine
Susceptibility to forms of cancer (including breast and melanoma)
Metaphorically speaking, the early adverse traumatic experiences are the infection.
Chronic, toxic stress to a child’s survival and safety is the root cause, and the chronic illnesses, listed above, are the by-product, the symptoms.
At this point in our world, this is NOT common knowledge.
The ships haven’t sent out the signal yet. And while this is known in some circles, not everyone understands it, and a lot of people don’t know how to treat it.
The good news is that there is an antibiotic equivalent to recovering and healing from these illnesses that are caused by early adversity and toxic stress, and that medicine is 100% natural and already lives in our bodies, but we have not been taught how to access it, or even know that it exists.
But, if you’d like to know more right now, keep reading.
Here are the basics.
What defines an early adversity, trauma, or adverse experience?
It’s common for people to dismiss the word “trauma” because they don’t classify themselves as being “traumatized.” We tend to associate trauma with returning army soldiers or survivors of physical or sexual abuse.
And while those do constitute traumatic experiences, there are also insidious and tricky-to-pinpoint toxic stressors that put a person into a trauma response leaving them unwell to the point of complex post-traumatic stress disorders (PTSD).
Here are some common situations that can create PTSD symptoms that are just as severe as what a soldier might experience after returning from combat:
Early surgical procedures and/or being hospitalized and pinned down for treatment.
Premature birth wherein the baby is in isolation and in an incubator.
Parents who are not well and not able to provide the appropriate care for a growing infant and child.
Lack of safety in the home life (abuse and neglect of all kinds, not enough food, shelter, being left alone for long periods of time).
Chronic suppression of emotions and the classic “children should be seen and not heard” motto.
High expectations placed upon a child such that they feel ashamed of their (lack of) ability.
School bullying, being ridiculed.
This list is by no means complete, but gives a spectrum of situations that put a child into a significant state of high stress that matches near death experiences.
How early stress impacts our capacity to heal
Let’s keep this simple.
When we are not safe, or put into a stressful situation, or are rendered helpless and unable to fight or flee a terrible environment, the body’s autonomic nervous system goes into a natural and automatic protective response.
It’ll first mount a stress response to fight and/or flee. But, if that can’t happen successfully, as is the case with so many children who are subjected to abusive and neglectful parenting practices, they will go into the next stage: shutdown, also known as freeze, which numbs the body. It’s nature’s way of protecting you from feeling terrible pain.
Babies pose an interesting conundrum. Their way of showing a stress response, this fight/flight survival physiology, is via crying. This spectrum is broad and can be anywhere from that fussy baby that shows signs of distress in the creases of her forehead and pursed lips refusing the morning porridge, all the way to the deafening cries of an impossible to console infant who is tightening up his diaphragm and gut making his internal world tighter and tighter and more unbearable to feel, which only ignites more crying and more grief.
Anywhere along this spectrum this baby is in some form of survival response and they are saying to us: “Hey something’s not right, I need help.”
We aren’t hardwired to self-soothe. We need to learn how.
We have to understand that human babies, unlike a calf or fawn, don’t come into the world with built-in self-soothing mechanisms. They must be taught. It’s the job of the adult caregiver to teach the baby how to self-soothe and regulate the stressors they feel from the external world and the internal environment of their bodily sensations, which are all new to them.
When a little one fusses and they are ignored, or they are left alone in a crib to “cry it out,” the patterns of poor health and nervous system dysregulation begin. Usually, this happens out of innocent ignorance because the parent just isn’t informed and doesn’t understand that this little being is unable to soothe themselves on their own. They don’t understand that this is not the time to “teach an important life lesson.” A stressed out infant may also be left alone in full fight/flight mode because the parent themselves doesn’t have their own healthy physiological regulation online to handle the stress in a calm manner.**
So, when a baby does not get the right kind of coaching from their caregiver on how to come down and out of this fight/flight survival response, the biological (survival) default is to freeze. This shut down response happens because at this fragile age the infant cannot voice their frustration with words and tell the parent what’s going on; nor can they flee the scene, hit or kick.
Their physiology “saves” them from feeling all the terrible distress, but this also ingrains a deep pattern in the nervous system that in times of stress the best thing to do is shut down. This is the epitome of helplessness.
Enter the stress chemical cortisol
This kind of pattern (typically) doesn’t just happen once. It’s something that infuses the lives of many and over time, this constant high energy fight/flight survival energy, followed by shutdown means that the body will get real good at pumping out the stress chemical cortisol.
Cortisol when secreted excessively, wreaks havoc on the body’s cells and organs. It weakens the immune system, promotes inflammation and is toxic to the brain – just to name a few adverse effects.
This cycle of high stress, shutdown (freeze) and secretion of excess stress chemicals puts massive strain on the human and is what is thought to be the culprit behind early childhood adversity and the preponderance of chronic illnesses that are tough to treat later in life.
Simply put – early low level chronic stress sucks the life energy out of a human being. It leaves them frayed and broken with little to no reserve for wound healing, self-confidence and vitality.
Time does not heal these wounds and the quick fix will fail
What sucks is that when a person fits this description of chronically ill, they’re desperate for anything that will give them relief from their pain.
More often than not, I’ve found that many people who are chronically ill may experience some relief via lifestyle change and countless behaviour modifications, similar to the idea of that headache lessening in my bacterial infection analogy via some aspirin. The reality is a lot of these people are still searching for complete relief. They can tell they haven’t got to the root of the issues: that lurking toxic trauma is still residing in the nervous system not allowing them to fully thrive because they are living in survival mode.
But, just like those who didn’t understand what bacterial infections were, or, who didn’t have access to antibiotics, these people aren’t at fault – they simply have yet to understand what must be done for this deeper healing to take place.
Neuroplastic healing must be sequenced in the right order for maximal effect
Imagine running a very large voltage of energy through old tattered wires that can’t hold the charge? It might handle it for a little while. But sooner or later, it’ll blow.
The human system is no different.
If the early nervous system foundations weren’t built well and have a limited capacity for intensity, a person must first work on building up this internal capacity. When this occurs, they can then process the fight, flight and freeze survival instincts, without going into more overwhelm, or shutdown.
Way too often people go into advanced practices like mindfulness, meditation, yoga and various forms of energy work that allow for big energies to move through the system, but they don’t do the groundwork of first increasing their capacity and so they, essentially, blow up.
On top of this, the big survival energies get stored with a lot of sensation and emotion. But, if a person didn’t grow the capacity to handle them in earlier years, which is pretty much the norm when there’s been toxic stress and adversity, we store them up and they wait until there is capacity for them to release.
The “storing up” of emotions and sensations IS part of this root issue: these survival energies create massive backup in the human nervous system and from this disease and illness grows.
This goes back to what I wrote above earlier: time does not heal these wounds – the body keeps them, even until we die, if we don’t actively work to release it all.
Unfortunately, there are many programs and protocols that are trying to provide that quick fix by skipping these primary steps of capacity building. While these primary steps are less glamourous to work with, they are foundational and absolutely necessary if a person is to ever fully rewire the old patterns that are no longer needed. In such cases, the signs and symptoms are treated, but the root cause is never addressed.
And just as giving headache medication to someone dying from a bacterial infection is bad standard of care – so is not addressing early trauma, nervous system health and putting into practice proper neuroplastic sequencing when someone wants to heal tricky to treat chronic illnesses.
I’m here, writing this to you to tell you that this doesn’t have to happen anymore.
This knowledge and the practices that I’ve created are the antibacterial equivalent to infection when it comes to healing from early adversities.
*This list is from the book, Scared Sick – The role of Childhood Trauma in Adult Disease and Karr-Morse’s reference is from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Overweight and Obesity: 2005.”
**If you are reading this and you know that your primary caretaker was not healthy, mentally stable and able to soothe themselves, then this poses another conundrum for the child. The child has no other option but to borrow and mimic what they learn from the caregiver and learn this way of self-regulation. This is a very simple way to explain how traits are passed along in families when it comes to a personality, how a person holds themselves, the facial gestures they make and even yes, how illnesses appear to be “genetic.”