Our collective DNA, for the most part, only knows what it is like to live in survival physiology. By becoming more regulated in our autonomic nervous system we start to unleash our true human potential.
I wish the entire body of work of healing trauma and nervous system regulation could be summed up easily on one page, giving you every itsy bitsy detail, method, technique and theory needed, such that if you just followed IT, and only IT, your life would miraculously improve.
I wish that magical page could effortlessly melt away all anxieties and pains, while angels sing melodic hymns in the background which spontaneously lead you to calmer and more zen-like states…
Truth is, in my 20+ years of professional and personal experience, this just ain’t possible!
BUT what can happen is an outline of some key benefits, that when experienced and lived daily (even when there are high levels of stress), become clues that one is a little more healthy and regulated in their nervous system physiology.
Think about this for a moment: We tend to only study the bad!
This idea to outline some of these benefits that indicate good nervous system health (regulation) came to me when I was reminiscing on a lecture one of my mentors, Kathy Kain, gave. It went something like this:
“We know a lot about what happens to a human system when it is sick and unwell. What we know less of is what happens in a system that is healthy!”
She’s so right! Think about it…we are so good at pathologizing and looking at what is wrong. Maybe we should try, instead, to look at what we want to move towards and then ask the question: what must happen to get there?
So with those words of experience from a woman 30+ years into her craft, here’s a list of what we, as nervous system specialists, know a healthy human system is like when it’s fairly free from anxiety and way more calm.
A healthy human system tends to:
Come down from stress naturally.
Go to sleep peacefully and wake-up in the morning feeling rested and refreshed.
Absorb healthy nutrition for all the cellular needs (think about cells in your gut sucking up the good vitamins and minerals) and also excrete toxic waste products (um, poop!) with ease and frequency.
Repair and regenerate your cells and body tissue at a harmonious speed that isn’t too slow and isn’t too fast, but is JUST right for your own unique needs.
Think and create with crystal clear focus and not always be stuck in a ‘brain-fog’.
Be productive in the projects, work and tasks you do on any given day.
Steer away from harmful people who create chaos and strife in your life.
Parent with greater ease, better boundaries and more empathy (even in those really tough times)!
Engage in meaningful relationships that nurture and provide safety for you.